I thought it would be fun to share a little video each day this week, I have a pretty free week so I am hoping we will have lots of time together. There will be some stuff that is work in progress, I always start with our connection and if it feels like I might get a no I change the question, if there is one string of connection that needs to be stronger we always work on that, Our Bond, Trust, Respect, Willingness and Focus, then when we start something new that the girls don’t understand I know they will give me their best try. Here is Sunday this is the day I try to work both girls together, it’s my Sunday morning treat. I also get to see the faces Maya pulls when I am not looking!
Here is Monday, and here is the secret to why we don’t do ‘training’ as such, it feels more like making a request to a friend in the moment when it is something they would like to do. Sharing territory and waiting for what feels right today, Maya offered the game of touching the barrel. We did lots more, hard to fit in to 90 secs. We also ended sharing territory and never have a problem putting on fly masks etc.
TUESDAY. so today Noonoo was in a performing mood, she gets these days, with dressage in mind I have been asking her to lift her hind legs ( Much needed for piaffe) well you never know! We started with the easier leg (left) she seemed to remember and today I pointed with my cane from the greenhouse, hopefully the tomatoes won’t mind,and she lifted. Then we worked at liberty crossing the left hind under and then crossing over, all fun requests that also help her become more supple. Then as I was thinking she has got this on the easy side, she showed me she could be ready to try the other side! They always seem to be ahead of me! The saying be careful what you think for your thoughts could become your reality applies with her.
WEDNESDAY, today I asked Noons if we could do some riding, yes was the answer but hurry up and trot there are horse flies! I have been riding in the bareback pad to help with coming back down from canter to walk, and checking that I am sitting straight, we are getting somewhere as her canter has become more balanced, this clip shows how hard it is for a horse not to fall out of canter, which she still does a bit my fault I let her get downhill so next time I will try to do better for her. Also you can see after 2 or 3 strides she starts to head down hill in her canter so we have done lots of transitions, then when we come back to trot she again starts to dive down but now I am more aware of it I ask her “can we stay a bit more up in the trot please?” when I ask because I notice often she will give me her best try. Before we entered the world of the Waterhole Rituals riding was a bit scary for both of us! Now we love seeing what our bodies can manage together, I have become a dependable partner and so has she #bitlessbarebackdressage
THURSDAY. Wow what a beautiful day it is today, the sun was out even at 7am with a cool breeze to keep the horses from getting too hot, I rode Noons in her saddle as I don’t like to ride bareback all the time we had fun with trotting poles. Of course I always start with connection from the ground and permission to ride.
Maya seemed very soft and gentle this morning, very willing with picking her feet up from a glance and knowing which one was to be lifted next to pick out. She has been more willing and connected as the week has gone on, having more time with her is paying off. So today I put the tack on, she was fine with this, sometimes I work her at liberty in tack as she found the thought of tack stressful and would become spooky, a very different horse with and without tack, she has never had a saddle or bit, I have a saddle I have borrowed and have put it on a couple of times, however the saddler, came to check it and said it was fine but also said Maya had suffered pressure from stirrup bars in the past,so I have been thinking a soft bareback pad with no stirrups or pressure might be better for now. I decided any thoughts of riding were to be put aside about a month ago and that I would work on her willingness to allow me to shape her body more, this was also too stressful in the past, she is starting to think it’s not so bad now, she is also responding nicely to the breath. When she lets me know it is ok to have a sit on her that is all I need to make my day, when it is stressful we stand still when she relaxes I will ask for a step, I stopped the riding a month ago as she only took about 12 steps and felt the need to bury her head down and show the stress in her mouth.
My horses can be very different from one day to another, our relationship can look different at any given moment, my relationship with Noons looks nothing like my relationship with Maya and if Maya choose’s a ridden relationship that is a bonus it will be the relationship we are meant to share and so long as we are both happy and we very much are, that is all that matters. I am always striving to find the right vibration between us that is mutually beneficial. Today we were in agreement, alignment,and connected, we stood at the mounting block and I felt her back tense so I tried to kind of massage her with my seat and she did seem to be ok with that. Unfortunately I forgot to move the camera closer so the part with her showing me it was ok to get on and then even asking me back on after I got off is a bit hard to see. My heart has been joyful all day. Not because I feel the ‘need’ to ride, but because she showed me more trust and calmness.Waiting for todays video to upload it is really slow!
FRIDAY. Today Maya has had a day off we spent a nice time brushing and hanging out in the stable, too hot now and too many nasty horse flies. First thing Noons really didn’t want to get out of bed, we did get motivated and her attitude changed with some liberty dancing and getting her little brown bottom into gear. We finished with some stuff she likes as she knows she is very clever, she is at liberty and if she walked away I would listen to her feelings. She likes to figure things out and I sometimes think/know she is a step ahead, this week I had asked her to pick up one hind leg at a time I was going to work towards picking one up then the other, so today she made a start on that!
SATURDAY, another lovely hot day so we were up early, 7am here today was all about the second Waterhole Ritual and something that I feel we all wish to develop. TRUST. How deep can our mutual trust go? Here is Noo noo and we were having a little liberty dance to this music so I kept it playing. Had to end the week of videos with music! Using the Waterhole Rituals has given us a deep mutual trust. I couldn’t end the week without Maya too so I had to do two videos today.
SATURDAY, last day of sharing my week, Maya and I sharing TRUST, she was always stressful going through doorways, always rushing, didn’t like poles and any feeling of being ‘trapped’ of course liberty and the Waterhole Rituals were her calling!. Now she can let me influence her body forwards backwards , through poles etc even backwards around corners ( which is a big one for her) we take baby steps and enjoy the ride! She has to trust me, then I have to trust her.
This was the first time I decided to try the rein around her neck, it is a form of ‘control’ to her. She is ok with lunging and wearing the bitless bridle so this was an experiment into how does she feel with this? We will always dance at liberty we love it, however we will keep an open mind about other options too and all done with love. Thanks for watching.
Of course next week will look different, our relationships will look different we are always evolving, nothing stands still, even if you ‘do’ nothing you cannot avoid change. Change for good, when we approach things with kindness , a sense of self, gratitude, and I always find a little bit of humor and a smile helps too.
Have a great week,
Love Jayne x