When I rode horses before learning from Carolyn Resnick and the Waterhole Rituals I tried to be the best I could be I was always trying to learn and improve. I tried to be a feeling rider and consider the horse. Did I ever think of giving the horse the freedom of real choice? No. I had never encountered anyone who really did.
The greatest feeling a horse can give us is true magnetic connection, the kind of connection they share with close herd/family members. When we cultivate this connection, allowing ourselves to ‘feel’ it, it becomes something so powerful. We truly become one with our horse this is when the bond, trust, respect, willingness and focus is in complete balance and a 50-50 relationship is alive.
This is when for some reason, that I still marvel at, a horse will offer us his/her back in freedom, at liberty and simply from the connection we share, it needs no training it is a gift from our horse to us. Our language is understood by each other and we have a deep shared trust. Noo noo wants to be close to me and seeks companionship with me. I still feel a lump in my throat at what she offers, I am always grateful , when she started to offer to let me ride at liberty it was so clear, she positioned herself for me to get on and we felt connected in the same way we do from the ground. I did no training for this, we didn’t practice coming to the mounting block and me giving cues or aids, which would have been fine and is what I thought I would need to do. However none of this was needed, I simply walked to the mounting block with her and asked her how she felt about it, I asked for her to come closer and she clearly offered her back.
Noo noo is not what you would call a steady low energy horse, she is a hot blooded Lusitano with bullfighting bloodlines, she has her wild spirit intact, if we didn’t share the relationship we do it would be reckless to think of riding her at liberty. She used to be pretty expressive about how she felt I should change! Thankfully I found Carolyn Resnick.
We have traveled a long way together and this is not a connection built overnight, the road has been bumpy at times, to experience what I have with her in my lifetime is something that inspires me every day.
If you wish to experience the same magic that horses can bring to us don’t give up, just enjoy the ride. Be patient and keep growing your relationship, grow the bonds between you and your horse at every opportunity.