Most kids are told the tale of the Hare and the Tortoise, it is one of Aesop’s Fables. This tale could teach us something as horse trainers.
Once, a hare saw a tortoise walking slowly with a heavy shell on his back. The hare was very proud of himself and he asked the tortoise. “Shall we have a race?”
The tortoise agreed. They started the running race. The hare ran very fast. But the tortoise walked very slowly. The proud hare rested under a tree and soon slept. But the tortoise walked, slowly and steadily and reached the goal. At last, the tortoise won the race. This tale varies, some versions say the Tortoise offered the Hare a wager knowing he was proud he would think he could win. He would underestimate the determination of the Tortoise.
I was always told it as a slow and steady, sticking to your path gets you there kind of tale. It could also have the message. Pride comes before a fall!
This can often be the case with horses. I know from the relationships I have with my horses that sometimes taking what looks like a slower route, actually makes what ever you wish to do easier and quicker. They also keep me humble and remind me to feel excited about learning and finding what I don’t know!
I have had comments from people who think The Waterhole Rituals™ would take too long for them. They continue with what they know even though it is not working for them. They know there is a gap in what they are doing as their horses behavior tells them this. However spending time waiting for their horses to initiate a relationship and using no tack seems daunting for them.
I was doing the same thing!! I was trying to ‘train’ Noonoo with the knowledge and experience I had, it was not working for her!!! I knew this and I read a quote ” If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got” I was doing what I had always done and not getting what I had got with other horses, a light bulb went off if I kept on doing the same things, for her it wasn’t going to work.
I discovered The Carolyn Resnick method The Waterhole Rituals™.
Now I have evolved into the person she needed me to be, I put how she feels first. I was reading some comments about Liberty horse training on social media and there seemed a vast difference in how we can perceive Liberty .
I read comments like when I TELL my horse he rears. This shouted from the screen at me. I am so very pleased that Carolyn found a way to make training horses much quicker, safer, and more harmonious for both parties. She taught me look for entry point of connection, ask when the horse is willing. When we let our horse truly be At Liberty, which means freedom of choice we tend to make requests to which they will say yes and then they even start to ask what shall we do together. We find we need to use far less energy and aids. Our horses like this. The Carolyn Resnick method is truly liberty based and use’s rituals natural to horses. We become clear and make sense to them and this encourages them to seek us out.
Here Chester can leave me at any time and I will not pursue him, he knows this and when we pause he used to leave ( he was very impatient) now he stays breathing deeply onto me. He is very playful and can still bump me with his shoulder, he knows he is doing it but he is checking to see if I notice, I say yes I felt it move away please but you can come back if you like. He chooses to come back and enjoys being with me. This has made lunging , ground work and introducing riding so much easier. We still spend time with The Waterhole Rituals deepening the bond we already share. I will give him time, short cuts and trying to dominate him would not make either of us happy and I would miss out on the fun we share. I have to stick to our slow and steady path and indeed everything is evolving faster and with more harmony and flow than I could have thought possible.
Are you a Hare or a Tortoise?
Love Jayne x